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What about casual sex?

Many youths today boast of having casual sex with nothing behind it, while others have people whom they turn to for sex. But one thing we need to ask ourselves is ‘is there any harm in engaging in casual sex?’ Casual sex is harmful because it displeases God. Saying no to the snares of engaging in casual sex is very important. Be decisive. Think: What will be the consequences when I engage in casual sex? Are they devastating? How would others feel about me when i engage in casual sex? Therefore, work on your inner qualities. The better you are as a person, the better kind of people you will attract. Do not allow casual sex soil your good reputation with others. If you engage in casual sex, you are like a golden chain that has been cheapen. Do not cheapen yourself because of casual sex, wait until you are married when you will have the full opportunity to engage in it, this time not as casual but as ordained. Do not let yourself be ‘used’ for another persons instant gratification. Take c

Am i ready to date?

Sometimes, the urge to be with someone you see as special and someone who sees you as special is very strong, most especially when you are young. But, what is dating?, how can you know that you are ready to date? and when can a start to dating? Dating is any activity usually social, in which your romantic interest is focused on one person of the opposite sex and the interest of that person is also focused on you. But how can you know that you are ready to date? To answer this question you have to first know your purpose for dating. Ask yourself: Is my purpose of dating honourable that is, to help me determine my marriage mate? Or is it casual that is, just being with a member of the opposite sex without any intention of getting married? If your purpose is casual, you are like a child who plays with a new toy today and then discards it tommorrow. By doing so, you are preparing yourself for d

Will sex improve our relationship?

In a relationship, sex could dramatically change things. When people engage in sex, most especially when premarital, there are harmful effects which include sexually transmitted diseases(STD) such as HIV, unwanted pregnancy and a host of others. These consequences are usually devastating. Still, you might be tempted to say,”nothing will happen to me, after all is everyone not having sex?”. Your peers at school brag about their escapades and they don’t seem to be hurting. You may even feel that for you and your partner to be closer, you need to have sex. But, try not to give in to the snares so fast. You may have statistics which indicate that a large number of youths like you are having sex. For example, a U.S study revealed that by the time they finish school, 2 out of 3 youths in that country are sexually active. But that also means that 1 out of 3 are not. But, what about those who are? Researchers have also found that many such youths experience one or more of the following rude a