Will sex improve our relationship?

In a relationship, sex could dramatically change things. When people engage in sex, most especially when premarital, there are harmful effects which include sexually transmitted diseases(STD) such as HIV, unwanted pregnancy and a host of others. These consequences are usually devastating. Still, you might be tempted to say,”nothing will happen to me, after all is everyone not having sex?”. Your peers at school brag about their escapades and they don’t seem to be hurting. You may even feel that for you and your partner to be closer, you need to have sex. But, try not to give in to the snares so fast. You may have statistics which indicate that a large number of youths like you are having sex. For example, a U.S study revealed that by the time they finish school, 2 out of 3 youths in that country are sexually active. But that also means that 1 out of 3 are not. But, what about those who are? Researchers have also found that many such youths experience one or more of the following rude awakenings: Rude awakening 1- Disillusionment: Deep down, many girls would prefer someone who will not use them but rather care and protect them. But many boys later find out that they are no longer attracted to a girl who has giving in to their advances. Research has shown that a number of boys say that they will never get married to a girl they had once had sex with. This is because they prefer someone is more chaste! The reality of sex that is premarital is very different from what is shown on the TV. Nowadays, the entertainment industry glamorizes teen sex and makes it look harmless or like true love. Do not be naive because those who try to make you engage in it are looking for their personal interests. After all, someone who loves you from the heart will always care about your physical and emotional well-being. If you care about the feelings of your girlfriend, you will look out for her interests. Whether you are a boy or a girl, you will be degrading yourself by giving away something prcious when you give in to premarital sex. No wonder so many people usually feel empty and worthless, as if they have allowed a precious part of themselves to be stolen carelessly. Do not let that happen to you. If someone tries to coax you into sex by saying,”if you truly love me, you will do this”, firmly reply the person,”if you truly love me, you would not ask!”. Rude awakening 2- Distress: Most youths have regretted afterwards after engaging in sex that is premarital. Rude awakening 3- Distrust: After having sex, each partner begins to wonder,”who else has he or she had sex with?” Your body is far too valuable to give away. For now resist the snare of engaging in sexual immorality. Then someday when you are married, you will have the oppurtunity of engaging in sex freely without the regrets, worries and insecurities that are often the results of premarital sex. Now is the time for you to decide which road you are to follow but ‘think before you go down the road’. The choice is up to you….