Getting over a crush- Part 1
One dictionary defines a crush as ''the strong feeling of love, that usually does not last very long, that a young person has for somebody older''.
In today's world, crushes are very common such as sunlight is to the sky. Only a few percentage of teens are able to successfully pass on to adulthood without getting their pride and sense of humor contaminated. Crushes are usually frustrating ang will take you NOWHERE! Although crushes are normal, they could become immoral or improper when we are not careful.
Crushing on someone is one of the many desires which occur in a teen as a result of growth. Everyday, humans most especially teenagers, tend to remove old desires and replace them with new and powerful ones. No matter how long the crush lasts, it can cause a lot of damage to the person involved. For one thing, many objects of teenage affection are simply not worthy of esteem.
Remember that God does not want you to jeopardize our relationship with him. Therefore, whether you believe in God or not, ask yourself: Would my friendship with this ''Star'' or person jeopardize my relationship with the ones who care about us?, Does my God condemn this person?
Another factor you need to consider is Idolatry. Idolatry is the ''practice of worshipping statues as gods or the too much love or admiration given to someone or something''. Therefore, ask yourself: Would decorating my room wall to wall with the pictures of a star be identified as idolatry? Will my attitude please God?
Also take note too that cultivating romantic expectations for an impossible relationship is not healthy enough. It could possibly result in heartaches, anxiety, sleeplessness, chest pains or even depression.
Remember to always think of the results crushing on a particular person would bring to your life. Ask yourself: Would my decision result in isolation, humiliation or embarrassment? If so, do not even try getting into it. Also ask yourself: Would memories of your following someone around, making a scene in public or making a fool of yourself still linger even after these things you once enjoyed was totally over? If so, flee from it.
But how can you differentiate hope that is unfounded from the one that is founded and that is also legitimate? ''It is by looking carefully and coldly at the basic facts''. Don't dare crushing on someone older than you are because your chances of fulfilling your dreams are baseless and dim. In the same vein, crushing on a celebrity could lead to pain because the odds are that you may never even meet him or her, nor even talk/chat with him or her.
Take note that when you keep pursuing someone who is not interested in you aggressively, it could lead to a lot of humiliation. Therefore, ask yourself,: How well do I as an individual really know the person my heart is set on? Am I just loving an image? Am I blinding myself to this person's flaws? Thereafter, try to analyze the kind of love you have for the person.
In today's world, crushes are very common such as sunlight is to the sky. Only a few percentage of teens are able to successfully pass on to adulthood without getting their pride and sense of humor contaminated. Crushes are usually frustrating ang will take you NOWHERE! Although crushes are normal, they could become immoral or improper when we are not careful.
Crushing on someone is one of the many desires which occur in a teen as a result of growth. Everyday, humans most especially teenagers, tend to remove old desires and replace them with new and powerful ones. No matter how long the crush lasts, it can cause a lot of damage to the person involved. For one thing, many objects of teenage affection are simply not worthy of esteem.
Remember that God does not want you to jeopardize our relationship with him. Therefore, whether you believe in God or not, ask yourself: Would my friendship with this ''Star'' or person jeopardize my relationship with the ones who care about us?, Does my God condemn this person?
Another factor you need to consider is Idolatry. Idolatry is the ''practice of worshipping statues as gods or the too much love or admiration given to someone or something''. Therefore, ask yourself: Would decorating my room wall to wall with the pictures of a star be identified as idolatry? Will my attitude please God?
Also take note too that cultivating romantic expectations for an impossible relationship is not healthy enough. It could possibly result in heartaches, anxiety, sleeplessness, chest pains or even depression.
Remember to always think of the results crushing on a particular person would bring to your life. Ask yourself: Would my decision result in isolation, humiliation or embarrassment? If so, do not even try getting into it. Also ask yourself: Would memories of your following someone around, making a scene in public or making a fool of yourself still linger even after these things you once enjoyed was totally over? If so, flee from it.
But how can you differentiate hope that is unfounded from the one that is founded and that is also legitimate? ''It is by looking carefully and coldly at the basic facts''. Don't dare crushing on someone older than you are because your chances of fulfilling your dreams are baseless and dim. In the same vein, crushing on a celebrity could lead to pain because the odds are that you may never even meet him or her, nor even talk/chat with him or her.
Take note that when you keep pursuing someone who is not interested in you aggressively, it could lead to a lot of humiliation. Therefore, ask yourself,: How well do I as an individual really know the person my heart is set on? Am I just loving an image? Am I blinding myself to this person's flaws? Thereafter, try to analyze the kind of love you have for the person.
Watch out for Part 2.
The choice is up to you!
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